Dating damaged goods
We’ve been talking daily and getting to know each other. Typically, those discussions happen once sex is happening, but that won’t happen for us for at least another eight months.Or should I tell him now in case it’s a deal breaker?
You’re lucky to have options right now, and you should take advantage of that. My 27-year-old girlfriend is cute, caring, artistic, and has a heart of gold; we have compatible relationship ideals and life goals, and on paper our relationship makes sense. If you simply value and admire your girlfriend but don’t feel particularly excited about her, then don’t force yourself to keep dating her just because she’s a good person.You can talk to your maybe-future-boyfriend when you feel prepared to discuss having herpes in a frank, unashamed way, and to discuss what safe sex is going to look like for the two of you. Sally lives several hours away, and my 8-year-old daughter and I try to visit for the weekend about once per month.The problem is that my daughter has severe pet allergies, and Sally has two cats and a small terrier.If she were willing and able to hire a pet sitter during your visits, that would be an ideal solution, but since she isn’t, you should advocate for your daughter’s health and stay in a nearby hotel so that she can get a full night’s sleep without having difficulty breathing.
Incidentally, unless your daughter has an issue with allergy medication, I’m not sure why you wouldn’t have some at the ready with you, given that she might have a reaction to someone else’s pet at any time.
More than 1 in 6 Americans between the ages of 14 and 49 carry genital herpes, and there is medication to control flare-ups and minimize the risk of transmission; it is not a relationship-destroying burden unique to you, I promise.